Wednesday 24 April 2013

THE GOLDEN TEARS

LOVE CORNER
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     HOW TO TELL IF A GUY LIKES YOU
‘Oh God of heaven help me why am I so drawn to this person? Why on earth is it that I can’t help thinking about this person? It seems this person is so special that I feel so attached to him. I think I am beginning to notice some things this person has in common with me. He is tall, handsome, well built, has a good sense of humor, confident and loving. He’s got all I need in a guy / she is beautiful, got the shape, sexy and hot, always wanting to be around me, holding me and acting as if I’m her boyfriend. Should I say I am in love with this person or simply assume she’s just funny as a friend? How do I know if this person is coming as a friend or indirectly making his love intentions known’.
      You are welcome to LOVE CORNER where every issue that has to do with love, sex and relationship will be discussed in order to enhance a healthy and successful relationship.
      This article is based on how you can tell if a guy/lady loves you.
      If you have at one time or the other been faced with the situation which the person in the extract above is and you have been confused about knowing if the guy actually wants to be a friend or is in one way trying to show his interest in getting into a love relationship with you, do not worry. Here are some tips specially prepared for you to follow.
      #1.You always catch him staring at you: The eyes are not only windows to the man’s soul, it could as well be used to describe what is going on in his heart especially when it has to do with his emotions. When you realize that whenever you spot him, he always stares at you with an emotive look at you, it’s a sign that something emotional is building up towards you in his heart. That look might be appreciating the beauty you are made up of and the desire to have it all to himself is very strong in him. If he stares at you and you catch him doing so, if rather than taking his eyes away he keeps on looking and accompanies his look with a smile, its an indication that the guy is so confident and trying to tell you in a non verbal way that he admires and loves you. And your response means a lot to him at that instance. But I am not going to talk about your response yet because it’s a talk for later in this article. As a friend, he begins to create avenue for you to get close.

      #2.Assess his thoughts for the future; whenever he mentions the fact that he has plan coming up in the future, does he try to consider making you a part of it. For instance, making statements like ‘I don’t know how it’s going to be like next week going to the movies without you/alone’. Or he is probably trying to take a strong decision and just because you gave a little frown he is fast at changing his mind. Whenever he wants to meet an appointment he calls to tell you and asks how free you are to keep him company. He gets you involved in every step he takes. Then girlfriend this could be one of the ways he is putting his green lights on to get you informed of  the fact that his plans are not complete without you.
     
      #3. Note if he places you above other priorities: may be he is the very busy type or a workaholic who places his job or whatever he is doing more serious than any other thing. All his friends, his colleagues or even his school mates know him for that. He has no time for relaxation, having fun is even the last thing on his agenda. May be he does not even have a serious friend because very few people want to get involved with someone like that. But you notice that whenever you come around, he suspends whatever he is doing no matter how important and urgent they are just to spend time with you. Then there is a special feeling lurking somewhere in his heart just for you. Because at moments like that, he is going the extra mile just to have you to himself at the expense of other things. In fact you might even notice the fact that because you are coming around or you guys are together he decides to cancel other appointments in order to be with you and just to make you happy. He might even go as far as fixing appointments to the times when he knows you are fixed up so that by the time you are free, nothing will hinder you guys from being together. By now the #1 item on his to do list is being with you. LOVE is growing my dear.

#4. Watch his response to your actions: have you noticed some changes in his attitudes? Remember he used to be the no nonsense type who yells at people when they act below expectation or when a little offence is committed, he nags. Who knows may be he had been the non challant type who doesn’t care about anything or anyone. He dresses anyhow, talks without any emotional consideration, rough, dirty and careless. But ever since you guys have become very close, the no nonsense young man suddenly became gentle with you that a times even when you fall below his expectations, he helps you out rather than yelling. Whenever you offend him, rather than nagging, he lovingly tells you it’s nothing without getting angry. That very rough guy suddenly starts acting as a clean, careful and well dressed guy who always wants to leave an impression.
For anything that has to do with you, he is softening. At this point you also realize that everything he does is just to ensure you are happy. He doesn’t mind leaving the company of his male friends to keep you company. He does not even mind using his transport fare to get you chocolate. There is no doubt that these moves are tended towards winning your heart towards him. He is feeling love.

#6. Is he beginning to get possessive? : How does he react when he sees you in the company of other guys? Let’s start from his facial expression. Hmn, he looks pale right? He looks at you from wherever he is and tries to smile. But instead of smiling he grimaces. Have you watched his response when you shake hands with male friends and when you offer a hug? Damn. He wants to explode. Although he has not asked you out, he feels by the virtue of your closeness to the other guys, they might whisk you away from him. At this point, he hardly gets involved with any other lady especially when you are around all because he doesn’t want to give a wrong impression. As his ultimate goal is to win you, your feeling means everything to him. In fact some guys will always want to carry you around like hand bags since he always wants you around. At this point he wants to get to know everything about you. That is your background, your feelings, your dos and don’ts, your turn on and turn off. He sees you as his best confidant. He wants to share everything that happens to him with you including his past experiences. He might go as far sending you non romantic messages everyday just for you to keep him in mind and always get your phone ringing just to know how you are fairing. At this point, he has discovered that he can’t stop thinking about you. Because you are special to him in a way he himself can hardly understand. LOVE is blazing.
 At this point in time for the guy, preparing and presenting his proposal is the next thing in line. Before this moment, the lady’s responses at the various stages mentioned above means a lot to the realization of the last stage which is the proposal stage. The responses you give as a lady will tell whether you are desperate, cheap, not worthy of a relationship, no go area, or romantic. So, the next question is how best a lady can handle a guy who has been non verbal in his love advances language to make him want you more than he ever thought he can. How can you make him always run after you in a bid not to lose you, how can you make him talk when you actually want him to, how to act tough even when you are already falling in love with him and how to let him back off from you if his moves are disturbing. How as a guy you can read the moves of a lady and overcome their tricks. The five love languages of ladies. For these and more, make it a date with us in the next edition coming from my desk here at THE LOVE CORNER.- Cee Ma’am.

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